1:1 Mentoring with Alexa de Castilho

Wholeness Mentoring  

This is not self-improvement, it’s soul return. You have held it all together for so long, high functioning, capable, managing, caregiving, over-performing. Outwardly holding it all, quietly bracing inside.

You have read the books, done the therapy, attended the trainings. You know the language of healing and yet: something still loops. Self-doubt, paralysis, over-responsibility, the old stories replay, your body holds the tension, your nervous system keeps you braced, as if waiting for the next demand. This is not because you are failing, this is not a flaw, it is brilliant survival. What protected you then is simply no longer needed now.

This is the work of returning. Returning to the self that existed before the adaptation, returning to the wholeness that never left, returning to a life led not by fear, but by rooted presence.

This Work is For You If:

  • You are outwardly capable but inwardly exhausted.

  • You over-function for others while quietly abandoning yourself.

  • You carry responsibility that was never yours to hold.

  • You long to take up space but get stuck in paralysis, perfectionism, or self-doubt.

  • You sense inherited family patterns that keep pulling you back into old roles.

  • Your nervous system feels stuck: frozen, braced, hyper-alert.

  • You experience chronic tension, fatigue, hormonal imbalance, digestive issues, or autoimmune patterns.

  • You were the emotionally intelligent child, reading the room, becoming the helper, the fixer, the "good girl."

  • You sense you are carrying your mother’s and grandmother’s unspoken grief, unmet needs, and self-abandonment.

You are not broken. You are protecting yourself. And now it is safe to meet that protection with compassion.

he Arc of Wholeness

Healing is not linear, but there is a rhythm: Remembrance - Reconnect with the self that existed before adaptation. Revealing - Meet survival strategies with clarity, not shame. Recalibration - Build capacity to regulate, soften, and respond differently. Reintegration - Begin to choose from alignment, not protection. Rooted Legacy - Anchor a new baseline for your lineage and future.

This is lineage work, nervous system work, mother line work, soul work. It is where personal healing becomes collective repair.

What We Work With:

  • Attachment wounding and early relational trauma

  • Parentification and inherited roles of over-responsibility

  • Nervous system regulation and somatic safety

  • Inner child healing and parts work

  • Late-discovered neurodivergence and masking exhaustion

  • Moving from self-abandonment to self-trust

  • Boundaries, emotional fluidity, and embodied leadership

  • Breaking generational cycles without blame

  • Returning to sovereignty and sustainable expansion

  The Container

  • This is a living, breathing mentorship space. There is no rigid protocol, only a rhythm of safety and attunement, guided by what your system is ready to meet.

    You choose your depth:

    3-Month Mentoring

    • 12 x 60-minute 1:1 Zoom sessions

    • Personalised somatic practices, audio tools & reflections

    • Ongoing WhatsApp support between sessions

    1-Month Mentoring

    • 4 x 60-minute 1:1 Zoom sessions

    • Personalised practices and support

    Flexible payment plans and accessibility pricing available, please get in touch to find out more.

What My Clients Say

I’ve developed an ability to understand myself more in the moment, especially when big feelings come up. I’m able to sit with the version of myself that’s being triggered, to be with her, to see her, and because of that, I can calm myself, reparent myself, right there in the moment. It’s changing the way I respond to the world and to myself. —— Kate

For the first time in 46 years, I’m beginning to understand what it actually means to love myself and more importantly, I’m learning how to give myself the time and space to nurture that love. I now understand how trauma has shaped me. I’ve started to connect with the younger version of me, with tenderness and I can see her now through adult eyes. I understand why I developed the patterns I did to protect myself, and instead of judging myself for them, I meet them with compassion. Because of that, the self-doubt and lack of confidence I carried for years is starting to lift. I finally feel like there’s space for self-acceptance and for growth. ——- Debbie 

I’ve noticed significant changes in how I present myself to others. I’m clearer with my boundaries, I procrastinate less, I’ve learned how to stop thoughts from spiralling, in conversation I can feel when I need to pause, create space, and respond differently, rather than reacting from habit or overwhelm. ——— Lex

There’s more space now between how I feel and how I react, and in that space, I’ve started to make better choices, I can pause, I can regulate, and because of that, I’ve been able to stay more present and more loving in my relationship with my son. In that space, just that little bit of breathing room, has allowed me to create a more peaceful, more connected relationship with him. ———— Emma 

Investment

3 - Month Mentoring: £1,111 1 - Month Mentoring: £555
(Payment plans + accessibility pricing available upon request)

Each client also has the option to continue with 4 session bundles.

How We Begin

Every journey begins with a Wholeness Mapping Session. One attuned conversation, no pressure, no performance, just you being witnessed. If your body says yes, we continue, if not, you still leave with clarity.

This is the work of re-mothering oneself not because our mothers failed, but because they too were unmothered. We do not blame, we witness, we honour, we reclaim. This is how cycles end and where sovereignty begins

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